7 years = breaking up.
8 months = engagement

wtf ?

Dammit...
im sorry cb but all the replies i could come up with were useless nonsense,... i can't help you here sir.
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AHA... i hear you say... but all your replies are useless nonsense Rad.
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AHA.. I reply... i see what you did there.
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Actually i am beginning to worry about my 'reputation' on this forum, I've been reliably informed as to it's tattered nature. And this kind of off topicicitude is really going to add ammunition to this argument.. so mr cee of bee , pls help me in my off topicness by telling wtf the topic is? pls? nao?

Pretty simple to reply, and to describe my sourness...

I've been together witj my ex for 7 years. I've loved her so much, I've wanted to sell my gaming rig (no shit) to buy her an engagement ring.
She broke with me on 17th of january.
A few days later she started dating another guy.
And now, they are engaged.
After 8 months. Versus my 7 years of love, devotion, hopes, dedicatedness, lust, dreams, memories, everything you can come up with.

No, I'm still not recovered from the hurt she gave me.
And now, I got these news.
I haven't shred a single tear, but I'm very close to it.

The pain I feel is so deep, black, and useless, there are no words to tell.
And now, I'm drunk, in an EMO feeling, and I search for answeres from others, because my sould can't find it within.

Don't go around hating all women like MikeeUSA, but be glad that person's true nature came to the surface before you married.

Some women are hard to understand. They are like a whirlwind of emotion with little logic or reason.

Similar think happened to my cousin. Except hid did marry her and after only three months of marriage she left him for another man!

He bought a Harley , and found a girlfriend 10 years younger! Lets just say he ended up happier.

That sucks man. The only way is to move on. Don't hold onto the pain, move past it to something better. Loss is not nice, I have had plenty to deal with in my life.

After a few years (when the dark has lifted) you'll be the most positive and happy man on the planet. At least that's what happened to me.
Sorry to hear that but I won't tell you to move past this just yet. Sometimes you just need to grief for a while before you can move on, otherwise it will just come back and haunt you.

You got my best though.

i broke up with my girlfriend after our first trip last year
but single life is not that bad ! stay here , irc , play nexuiz , drink your beer

Thank you all for your kind words.
This is very hard for me, You know, I've loved her very much, Also, seeing that I've been next to her in every means, in every crisis life could offer... and now, after 8 fucking months she lives her (and supposedly my dreams) with someone else...

That suxx.

That are very sad news. Seven years is already a big part of one's life. I can understand how you feel and I wish you the strength to overcome the breakup. The only positive thing that I can see (not being involved emotionally myself) is that she got engaged that soon - somehow this indicates it was about time to break up. Though it won't make it any easier for you, I admit.

Take your time and think about what happened, but also consider this an opportunity for starting a new part of your life. I wish you all the best and stay open for new experiences.

People are weird, especially in love matters. It's hard to cope with something that's powered by magic. To quote the great Confoozyous (not to confuse with Confucius):

"Water seems wetter when raining."
or
"Love is like math book - Full of riddles."

Does that help You? Probably not.

How about this:
Life is like an empty cup of coffee.
Hard and cold on the outside and the inside lacks content.
Somebody stole my sugar.
And my spoon fell down.

You could also get a t-shirt...
"I got broken up with and all I got was this lousy t-shirt."


All the best, man. All the best.

Yeah that's bullshit man you know what i agree with TVR, she def not the one to marry. A positive thing is your still young and got shit loads to achieve. I have a partner now, but was single for 6 years after my ex left me for another guy. I was not with her as long as your partner but i did love her in a way and i felt like something you cannot put into words but then i thought screw it there is so much work i need to do and things to achieve so i focused on this and it a way it helped me be better becuase i focused my saddness on someting positive. I refused to suffer anymore from another persons actions because i knew i was not totally to blame. I channeled my bitterness on my work and passions I know its quite simple thinking and took me quite a while to do this but it helped me I do not know if it will help you but its the best advice i can give. It seems like this girl is at fault not you given how much you were willing to sacrafice for her, and you have managed to cope this far i think with time you may feel better and have achieved alot already and much more to come.

Yellow Robot wrote:I have a partner now

Oh my god! You cheater! I want a divorce! How long has this been going on?

(Off-topic reply, as I everything that I would say has already been said)

tundramagi wrote:"Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting diffrent results is the definition of insanity"

So it's science, not madness.

As I see, a pessimistic view on the topic has been deleted again. So I will hereby just mention the fact that it had been posted, for completeness's sake.

As for C.Brutail - I really wish you the best, but cannot tell you what to do. This is, unfortunately, something only you can work out with yourself now. But I recommend using the "gaming" and "doing useful stuff" method of dealing with it, and not the "b33r" one.

Seven years sounds familiar to me. I suffered the same thing in my twen years. A little difference however, I already had spent more money that I had, and she was already having her new man fore some months before she quit. No, I quit, she wouldn't. I don't wanna talk about the details now, but all what happened back then was really creepy

After all, I had bad times and it took a bunch of years and some more or less lukewarm relationships until I badly fell in love again and married. And what I have now was worth all the trouble I had to pass before.

And you will see Brutail, that's the way it goes, that's the way it will happen to you and there's no bad thing without some really positive aspects who are not in evidence until being able to look back in a few years. So maybe shed some tears, but stop in time and go on going your own way. You've been wasting your time on only one girl long enough now

Engagement after 8 months? If it's any consolation (I guess not), that won't last. My thoughts are with you C.B. You know you will come out of this better and happier than you could ever have been with her, but I also know how tough it is for you right now. Hang in there, b33r buddy.

Thank you again my friends Your helpful words mean a lot to me.
Well yeah, I have plenty things to do, and afterall, I'm young, a great future lies me ahead...

I think I need to remember to my signature more

/me pats C.Brutail on the back

PinkRobot wrote:Engagement after 8 months? If it's any consolation (I guess not), that won't last. My thoughts are with you C.B. You know you will come out of this better and happier than you could ever have been with her, but I also know how tough it is for you right now. Hang in there, b33r buddy.

not that i have much to say on the topic, i just wanted to clear something up...my parents got engaged after a few months..like two or something..they were engaged for a whopping 2 weeks (give or take a few days)...theyre still married...short engagements sometimes work out pretty well..sometimes better than long ones..at least in the experience of my married friends and fam..

MC SE7EN wrote:

PinkRobot wrote:Engagement after 8 months? If it's any consolation (I guess not), that won't last. My thoughts are with you C.B. You know you will come out of this better and happier than you could ever have been with her, but I also know how tough it is for you right now. Hang in there, b33r buddy.

not that i have much to say on the topic, i just wanted to clear something up...my parents got engaged after a few months..like two or something..they were engaged for a whopping 2 weeks (give or take a few days)...theyre still married...short engagements sometimes work out pretty well..sometimes better than long ones..at least in the experience of my married friends and fam..

Sorry, clear what up? I do not think pink was making a statement on how long a period of time a couple spends together before or during engagment will determine the length of time spent together after, more describing possible events in this particular situation. Given the great peroid of time spent together in the previous relationship to the much lesser current.

People seem to be marrying younger and younger these days, or getting engaged..out of about a minimum of 3 I know of, two split after they were engaged before marriage (both pairs were like 19 when they got engaged..sigh). The other one was married and now have split, don't know what the big deal is to be honest about getting married, one day, a piece of paper, basically for your fiance to look good and parade around for ONE day' and 10,000+ pounds worse off...10k..wow I could do a lot with 10k, turbo my car, get yellow_robot a haircut, buy esteel a hair re-growth programme etc..way better then getting married

It works sometimes, but people don't marry young like they used to cause they actually want to be with each other, now (atleast in England) it's more of a fashion status..everyone wants to be noticed or be popular or something in this country..reality TV programs I blame

divVerent wrote:(Off-topic reply, as I everything that I would say has already been said)

tundramagi wrote:"Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting diffrent results is the definition of insanity"

So it's science, not madness.

Does the term "mad scientist" ring any bells? It's called "Thin White Line" for a reason! (wait.... what?) i mean.... there is a thin line between science and madness.

I was just sending some love and sympathy in C.B.'s direction dudes, not a lot more. My girlfriend moved in with me 3 months into our relationship, so what does that tell you?

Also, tundramagi would like you to know that he also disagreed with me.

Don't worry, I got all his deleted messages in PM, just to make sure I get it

Hey C.Brutail, man don't worry. It just needs time... I take it you are in your mid-late twenties. Best age and country in the world not to be in an engagement/relationship situation : ) . And if after 7 years you guys broke up, imagine if you ended up married and had to divorce later... The pain/hassle now is minimal compared to that!
Most women though at this age are really insecure and look for commitment and a "economically viable" solution. However, since you loved her so much for 7 years, let it go. be happy for her. its the only way you ll be feeling ok with yourself better in the long run.

And yes kojn , indeed man, its sickening the amount of 18-20 year old ppl getting married and having kids , at least here around glasgow up to livingston. (Edinburgh is a lot more posh so ppl give it 2 or 3 more years ). But getting married so prematurely is just plain wrong. (Sepelio? hehe are you married or divorced already? : D )

Take what I say with a grain of salt.

Someone who can just switch gears like that, maybe doesn't have the heart to be happy with anyone. As someone else here said, maybe don't see too much weight in your ex's new relationship.

But I think people like you who care enought to get hurt, are the only ones who can be happy in the long run. The only ones who won't always be alone.

You deserve someone who has this same capacity you do and feels the same thing for you that you feel for her.